For a long time I was toying with the idea of putting in the poems, I write occasionally, in a seperate space and today I sat and did just that:-)...my new space is pOeMs 'n' QuOtEs! Hoping you all will take a look there too and give me feedback!!:-)
And I want to welcome my best friend Suchi to the blogworld :-) and I hope she likes this whole experience as much as I do... and I want to wish her
And I want to welcome my best friend Suchi to the blogworld :-) and I hope she likes this whole experience as much as I do... and I want to wish her
Holi was a splendid day...and my wish for a bright and sunny day was fulfilled! We had a nice time with family and friends:-)...
Thank u all for all your wishes and hope everyone had a nice time too...
I had a look at alapana's post on Eve Teasing and read her story on her own nasty experience ... it had me very upset and angry. And I really admire her courage and presence of mind. A thing she said in the comment she left in my post..."It sure helps when a issue is debated and discussed upon. Most of the women are always taught in this country to be silent, without any of their fault they are asked to hide about it. Awareness always help ,BNP or women’s days might come and go, but the Spirit must remain forever, and for that we all bloggers post our experiences, Its to remember ourselves and to remind others also that "To fight back is the solution for this problem"
That in my opinion is the very purpose why people are talking about this or why bloggers would and should choose to blog about this issue.
I for one have never been comfortable with the thought of writing about many such incidents I have faced...although now I have come to realize that every experience narrated helps someone somewhere...by making them more aware and cautious!
Thank u all for all your wishes and hope everyone had a nice time too...
I had a look at alapana's post on Eve Teasing and read her story on her own nasty experience ... it had me very upset and angry. And I really admire her courage and presence of mind. A thing she said in the comment she left in my post..."It sure helps when a issue is debated and discussed upon. Most of the women are always taught in this country to be silent, without any of their fault they are asked to hide about it. Awareness always help ,BNP or women’s days might come and go, but the Spirit must remain forever, and for that we all bloggers post our experiences, Its to remember ourselves and to remind others also that "To fight back is the solution for this problem"
That in my opinion is the very purpose why people are talking about this or why bloggers would and should choose to blog about this issue.
I for one have never been comfortable with the thought of writing about many such incidents I have faced...although now I have come to realize that every experience narrated helps someone somewhere...by making them more aware and cautious!
And I'd like to narrate one such personal experience that changed the way I dealt with Eve Teasing...
"One of the many distasteful incidents I remember happened many years ago...I was walking outside our apartment complex with two of my friends. When two guys riding a bike passed some dirty comments. While I ignored them (which is what most girls do), my friends did not and yelled across the road to two cops that these guys were teasing us! Within minutes a chase ensued and one cop caught up with these two guys and dragged them back to where we stood. What followed was even more frightening to me...the cops began to beat these two guys mercilessly! I was aghast...
The guys kept saying sorry sorry and falling at our feet! Sorry sister??!! ... I was disgusted!! The cop after all the beatings asked if we would lodge a formal complaint...but we felt the guys had learnt a lesson...and we did not lodge the complaint.
Most guys think that they can say anything and get away with it. And fact is more often that not, they do get away! Because we (women/girls) do not raise our voice! And that day I learnt NOT to IGNORE…but TO SPEAK OUT!
When something BIG happens then a lot of women speak out...but day after day, small and rather insignificant incidents such as the above...keep happening. What I learnt that day was that all I need to do is RAISE my VOICE and OBJECT! Nobody...whether it's a teenage guy or a middle aged guy can get away thinking...she'll just keep quiet like the rest...I don't want to be the reason for him to go on believing he can get away with this with another woman after me..."
There are many…many…such instances. Worse than the above...but the above incident ensured I always spoke up...objected...
Like I mentioned elsewhere, even as I sit and write here…some girl / woman is facing a similar situation.
We (women) may not be able to change the way men think but we can change ourselves… like I did that day.
The guys kept saying sorry sorry and falling at our feet! Sorry sister??!! ... I was disgusted!! The cop after all the beatings asked if we would lodge a formal complaint...but we felt the guys had learnt a lesson...and we did not lodge the complaint.
Most guys think that they can say anything and get away with it. And fact is more often that not, they do get away! Because we (women/girls) do not raise our voice! And that day I learnt NOT to IGNORE…but TO SPEAK OUT!
When something BIG happens then a lot of women speak out...but day after day, small and rather insignificant incidents such as the above...keep happening. What I learnt that day was that all I need to do is RAISE my VOICE and OBJECT! Nobody...whether it's a teenage guy or a middle aged guy can get away thinking...she'll just keep quiet like the rest...I don't want to be the reason for him to go on believing he can get away with this with another woman after me..."
There are many…many…such instances. Worse than the above...but the above incident ensured I always spoke up...objected...
Like I mentioned elsewhere, even as I sit and write here…some girl / woman is facing a similar situation.
We (women) may not be able to change the way men think but we can change ourselves… like I did that day.
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Ps: I must mention here that my family wasn't too happy with us "making a scene"...their main concern being "what if these guys were some anti-social elements and what if they were to come back later and extract some sort of revenge??!"...I guess one can't blame them for thinking this way and worrying for our safety. But it's just this kind of thinking in many homes...that conditions the minds of women and teach them to be submissive and not speak up...
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