Before reading the post…Please do visit the link “Justice for Priyadarshini” and help the cause by signing the online petition “here”. Thanks people :-) … Remember every voice, every opinion counts and makes a difference! I’d also written a post earlier related to the above…the post was about the Jessica, Priyadarshini and Nitish murders…if you haven’t read it before and have the time, please take a look “here”.
Now the post!
“My blog as most of you know is a censored blog coz my family visits and reads stuff here esp. posts which have a mention of Vedant! That’s the main reason why what I tend to put up is “safe”…nothing that’s going to get my mom picking up the phone and ask me “Well! What was that about?”…*grin*
I guess I am more candid in the comments I leave behind in other people’s blogs and I doubt that anyone would actually go into every blog I read and keep track of what I am saying everywhere! It would be kind of flattering…loll… if some guy were doing that to show his interest in me. Though after a while it could border on obsessing and freak me out!!! Hmmm!...*nah there’s no one like that out there!*...
Lets touch upon one such censored topic that has caused curiosity esp. when I put up the infamous *censored* bit in the Weird Tag post. A lot of people were curious about the weird things tag and I got a lot of questions on that one plus of course last time’s “crush” mention! Hah! No I’m not here to reveal it all!
But yes about the Weird things tag…I mentioned bad habits and the lesser of the two evils mentioned there is the habit of “cursing” or “cussing”…which btw if u notice around us, has become second nature to most (for some it could be first too!). It’s not such a big deal is it? But for me it is! It’s become an even bigger deal since Vedant came along and now I have to constantly watch what I speak and how I speak with him around.
I realized this long back when he started talking and one fine day when his toys fell, I heard his little cute voice exclaim “Oh shit!” and mind you he was only 2 and half at the time! And explaining things to him seemed quite futile coz his innocent reply was, “But u say it na mamma?”….hmm!!
The times when we tend to forget about controlling what we say are during arguments, driving on Delhi roads (!) and when there’s a party at home. But the child’s constantly picking up words and conversation. Rajiv and I realized about the driving bit when one day a truck over took our car from the wrong side at the Mehrauli-Gurgaon road, forcing Rajiv to slam the brakes and Vedant yelled at the truck, “Oye dhakkan! Paagal hai kya??!” And when I turned around to glare at him, he looked at me with a innocent and straight face and said, “Papa toh hamesha aise hi bolte hai!” (But papa’s always saying this!)…hmmmm!! Now we just grit our teeth when incidents on the road upset us and keep our mouth shut! (It’s tough but gotta do it!).
Once he picked up a Hindi abuse…and of course didn’t say it clearly…and obviously didn’t know what it meant but he was sitting playing with his toys and I think he named one toy with that word!!! It takes time to get the child to stop using such words…without having them ask you endless questions…some really tough to answer! And the most uncomfortable one being, “But why do grown ups’ use such words?”
Another funny incident was with a friend’s daughter who was fascinated with Hindi movie songs :-) … all of 3 years old; she came home one day and sang aloud, “Aye Saala…” My poor friend who hadn’t yet heard the song “roobaroo” (you can listen to it here!)from the movie “Rang De Basanti” was shocked to hear her precious baby use that language!
Nowadays when I do lose my cool at people and say something offensive, Vedant looks at me and says “Yeh gandi baat thi na mummy…mujhe manaa hai na yeh bolna!” (That was a bad word right mummy and I’m not allowed to repeat it right?!)….*sigh*
Yes I know very well that in some years from now, he’ll be picking up stuff from friends and he may not use this kind of language at home but with friends it will be a different story all together! I know because I was around 10 years old when I learnt about the “F” word (and that’s another interesting story but later!)…and things are moving faster than ever nowadays. He’s 5 now…and I doubt that I will have to wait for another 5 years before I have to keep track of what he’s picked up!
He’s not yet very clear with spellings and reading words, so Rajiv and I spell out stuff that we don’t want him to understand. So far the only spelling he understands is “C H O C” (for chocolates!) besides the school stuff like “C A T”, “B A T’ etc…lolzz… or we use abbreviations for slang or objectionable stuff. But I do get curious questions on these too… “Mummy what’s FO?” or “ye BC kya hai?”….hmmmm!
Some day when he gets to know all this from frenz, he’s going to have the last laugh I know…but well, the rule is you don’t get to use that kind of language with your parents or at home and with people older…so long as that fact stays ingrained in him!
Okkk…that’s it for now! The greater of the two evils remains my lil secret :-) and of course the “crush” stays close to my heart…!! ;-)
I doubt if I will be putting up another post this week…two posts per week suits me just fine unless something important turns up! Enjoy your weekend people while I sit here dreading the call from mom!!!! *sigh*"
Ps: the music playing is “Heal the world” by Michael Jackson…praying for the innocent people and esp. the children hurt and dying in the war in the mid-east…praying the war ends…
Now the post!
“My blog as most of you know is a censored blog coz my family visits and reads stuff here esp. posts which have a mention of Vedant! That’s the main reason why what I tend to put up is “safe”…nothing that’s going to get my mom picking up the phone and ask me “Well! What was that about?”…*grin*
I guess I am more candid in the comments I leave behind in other people’s blogs and I doubt that anyone would actually go into every blog I read and keep track of what I am saying everywhere! It would be kind of flattering…loll… if some guy were doing that to show his interest in me. Though after a while it could border on obsessing and freak me out!!! Hmmm!...*nah there’s no one like that out there!*...
Lets touch upon one such censored topic that has caused curiosity esp. when I put up the infamous *censored* bit in the Weird Tag post. A lot of people were curious about the weird things tag and I got a lot of questions on that one plus of course last time’s “crush” mention! Hah! No I’m not here to reveal it all!
But yes about the Weird things tag…I mentioned bad habits and the lesser of the two evils mentioned there is the habit of “cursing” or “cussing”…which btw if u notice around us, has become second nature to most (for some it could be first too!). It’s not such a big deal is it? But for me it is! It’s become an even bigger deal since Vedant came along and now I have to constantly watch what I speak and how I speak with him around.I realized this long back when he started talking and one fine day when his toys fell, I heard his little cute voice exclaim “Oh shit!” and mind you he was only 2 and half at the time! And explaining things to him seemed quite futile coz his innocent reply was, “But u say it na mamma?”….hmm!!
The times when we tend to forget about controlling what we say are during arguments, driving on Delhi roads (!) and when there’s a party at home. But the child’s constantly picking up words and conversation. Rajiv and I realized about the driving bit when one day a truck over took our car from the wrong side at the Mehrauli-Gurgaon road, forcing Rajiv to slam the brakes and Vedant yelled at the truck, “Oye dhakkan! Paagal hai kya??!” And when I turned around to glare at him, he looked at me with a innocent and straight face and said, “Papa toh hamesha aise hi bolte hai!” (But papa’s always saying this!)…hmmmm!! Now we just grit our teeth when incidents on the road upset us and keep our mouth shut! (It’s tough but gotta do it!).
Once he picked up a Hindi abuse…and of course didn’t say it clearly…and obviously didn’t know what it meant but he was sitting playing with his toys and I think he named one toy with that word!!! It takes time to get the child to stop using such words…without having them ask you endless questions…some really tough to answer! And the most uncomfortable one being, “But why do grown ups’ use such words?”
Another funny incident was with a friend’s daughter who was fascinated with Hindi movie songs :-) … all of 3 years old; she came home one day and sang aloud, “Aye Saala…” My poor friend who hadn’t yet heard the song “roobaroo” (you can listen to it here!)from the movie “Rang De Basanti” was shocked to hear her precious baby use that language!
Nowadays when I do lose my cool at people and say something offensive, Vedant looks at me and says “Yeh gandi baat thi na mummy…mujhe manaa hai na yeh bolna!” (That was a bad word right mummy and I’m not allowed to repeat it right?!)….*sigh*
Yes I know very well that in some years from now, he’ll be picking up stuff from friends and he may not use this kind of language at home but with friends it will be a different story all together! I know because I was around 10 years old when I learnt about the “F” word (and that’s another interesting story but later!)…and things are moving faster than ever nowadays. He’s 5 now…and I doubt that I will have to wait for another 5 years before I have to keep track of what he’s picked up!
He’s not yet very clear with spellings and reading words, so Rajiv and I spell out stuff that we don’t want him to understand. So far the only spelling he understands is “C H O C” (for chocolates!) besides the school stuff like “C A T”, “B A T’ etc…lolzz… or we use abbreviations for slang or objectionable stuff. But I do get curious questions on these too… “Mummy what’s FO?” or “ye BC kya hai?”….hmmmm!
Some day when he gets to know all this from frenz, he’s going to have the last laugh I know…but well, the rule is you don’t get to use that kind of language with your parents or at home and with people older…so long as that fact stays ingrained in him!
Okkk…that’s it for now! The greater of the two evils remains my lil secret :-) and of course the “crush” stays close to my heart…!! ;-)
I doubt if I will be putting up another post this week…two posts per week suits me just fine unless something important turns up! Enjoy your weekend people while I sit here dreading the call from mom!!!! *sigh*"
Ps: the music playing is “Heal the world” by Michael Jackson…praying for the innocent people and esp. the children hurt and dying in the war in the mid-east…praying the war ends…
And read my poem "mamma" !!
